At Long Last - Leonard
…….I wish I could introduce you fully
to my grandmother. She was a lovely little lady whom I barely remember
since she died when I was five. She was also a proper product of the
Victorian era who always called her husband Mr. Matthews. Mother said
that she used to tease her about this since together Mary and Leonard
had produced 8 children. I suspect grandmother's only response was a
shocked "Oh, Lucy".
Quiet, modest grandmother would
never have written an autobiography, but when her aggressive outgoing
husband was 91 he did — Leonard Matthews - a Long Life in Review.
It was printed only for the family and close friends, some 200 copies,
I think. My copy is inscribed to me in April 1929, when he was 100 and
I was 14.
As a child I remember a very old
man of whom I was rather afraid. He wore grubby clothes all rooming
and spent his time out of doors (weather permitting) — working
in his rock garden, around the lily pond, or in the asparagus bed. After
a nap in his chair in the afternoon he changed into a black suit and
dark tie worn with a wing collar. Before dinner, Miss Ozorio, the housekeeper,
would read the paper to him, and each night of the week one of his sons
or daughters and family would come in for dinner, served formally by
Emma & Leta, the German maids. Aunt Mary Morton came on Monday,
Uncle Claude Matthews on Tuesday, Uncle Percy Werner on Wednesday, etc.
One winter I was part of this routine since I lived with him at the
old house on Cabanne in order to have my teeth straightened. There was
no orthodontist in Rolla where we were then living.
Unfortunately my actual memories
of grandfather stop here. At 97 he was very deaf and at 11 I was very
shy, and inept at thinking of conversational tidbits to shout at him.
I remember almost every detail about the house, however. The copy of
Guido Reni’s Aurora over the dining room mantel, the gas lights
still in use in the back part of the house, the curio cabinet behind
the Morris chair in the parlor—filled with treasures from the
travels of all the members of the family. My special favorite was a
Chinese ivory puzzle ball with 8 progressively smaller balls inside
of it—all carved.
It was only after grandfather's
death that I read his book and regretted that I could never ask him
the questions I might have asked earlier. He was born in Baltimore in
1828. As he writes in his Preface, Louis XIV was to blame. If he hadn't
revoked the Edict of Nantes and forced the Huguenots to flee France,
grandfather's ancestors on both sides wouldn't have emigrated to the
New World—and I wouldn't be here.
In 1838, at the age of 10, grandfather
was sent alone from Baltimore to St. Francisville, Missouri on the Des
Moines River where two uncles had established a general store. He stayed
a year and returned to Baltimore to report on the good life on the frontier.
A year later, the whole family, including 9 children, moved west. In
1848 grandfather was 20. He had spent the intervening years helping
on a farm his father had bought near Hannibal and studying a little
medicine. The news from Sutter’s mill in California was enough
to send him off with other young adventurers in search of gold. He found
some — 25 hundred dollars worth from a streambed, which quickly
grew to $25,000 through several business ventures including a loan to
a shipping company at 5% per month — the going rate in San Francisco
at the time. It also vanished rather quickly when the company ran into
difficulties. Leonard returned to Missouri by way of Panama and New
York with less than a thousand dollars for his share of the gold rush.
The wholesale drug business with
two brothers in St. Louis came next. Seidlitz Powders, Cooks pills,
Turlington Balsam, hair oils and cologne sold well — as did a
rival's offering — Mexican Volcanic Oil Liniment — which
was actually crude petroleum touted as oil from the burning mountains
of Mexico. War came in 1861, splitting the states, and incidentally,
the Matthews brothers, half of whom had moved down river to New Orleans.
The business was flourishing and medicines were in such demand that
grandfather paid a substitute to go to war in his place. He also married
Mary Spotswood Nisbet that year.
By 1865 two daughters had been born
and the strain of maintaining the business during the war years had
slackened. Grandfather's feet were itchy again and he and grandmother
decided to go abroad, leaving the children with his parents. Going abroad
was no easy matter in those days, but nothing really daunted grandfather
and they managed a years travel. It took them through Egypt, Arabia,
what was then known as the Holy Land, Turkey, Greece and the rest of
Europe. I've spoken of my grandfather as dauntless; my grandmother must
have been equally so. They arrived home in November of 1866 and their
third daughter was born the following January.
At 38, grandfather felt he had made
as much money as he needed and was ready to retire to the life of a
gentleman farmer in the country — to Kirkwood/Oakland, in fact.
The drug business was sold to Meyer Brothers, but after 3 years he was
restless again. Soon he was back in business, founding the first brokerage
house in St. Louis with a cousin by marriage, General A. G. Edwards.
By 1878 five more children, including my mother, had been born, and
the whole family was ready to move back to the city — to a house
on Grand Avenue, near Mary Institute for the girls and Smith Academy
for the boys.
The rest of Leonard's life can be
summed up very quickly, despite the fact that it was extremely busy.
He took an active part in the affairs of St. Louis, but always found
time for travel and his beloved garden. One of his activities which
is especially interesting to me now was his work as an early trustee
of Shaws Garden.
We can leave him here, looking forward
happily to a golden wedding celebration in 1911, and somewhat dubiously
to my mother's marriage a month later. To tie up the loose threads let's
consider that marriage. You may remember that we left the potential
groom at 15 in 1880, having a rather miserable time of it, with very
little formal education, moving from one menial office job to another.
In the intervening years he went to New Mexico to be a cowboy, sold
jewelry in Indiana, somehow became a major in Puerto Rico in the Spanish
American War, and read enough law to pass bar exams to become a lawyer.
Considering this rather checkered
career it's easy to understand why solid citizen Leonard Matthews looked
with no favor at all on the British ne'er do well who was courting his
youngest daughter. He kept them apart for 10 long years— but finally,
when my father was 46 and my mother 36 they married — and everybody
lived happily ever after — I guess.