Key American Values
Appendices | Handbook |America’s population reflects remarkable ethnic diversity. More than 20 percent of the population of two major cities, Los Angeles and New York, were born in another country. In some other major cities (including San Francisco and Chicago) more than one of every ten residents is foreign born. Non-white people outnumber whites in several large cities. Newspapers commonly use such terms as “Asian American,” “Italian American,” and “Arab American” to reflect the persistence of various ethnic heritages within the United States. There are people whose skin is labeled white, black, brown, yellow and red.
America’s population includes Catholics, Protestants of many denominations, Jews of several persuasions, Muslims, Buddhists, animists, and people who believe in no supreme being or higher power. There are people who have many years of formal education and people who have nearly none. There are the very rich as well as the very poor. There are Republicans, Democrats, Independents, Socialists, Communists, Libertarians, and adherents of other political views as well. There are lawyers, farmers, plumbers, teachers, social workers, immigration officers and people in thousands of other occupations. Some live in urban areas and some in rural ones.Given all this diversity, can one usefully talk about “Americans”? Probably so, if one is careful.
How Americans See Themselves
Americans do not usually see themselves, when they are in the
United States, as representatives of their country. They see themselves
as individuals who are different from all other individuals, whether those
others are Americans or foreigners. Americans may say they have no culture,
since they often conceive of culture as an overlay of arbitrary customs
to be found only in other countries. Individual Americans may think they
chose their own values, rather than having had their values and the assumptions
on which they are based imposed on them by the society in which they were
born. If you ask them to tell you something about “American culture,”
they may be unable to answer and they may even deny that there is an “American
culture.”At the same time, Americans
will readily generalize about various subgroups within their own country.
Northerners have stereotypes (generalized, simplified notions) about Southerners,
and vice versa. There are stereotypes of people from the country, people
from the city, people from the coasts, people from inland, people from
the Midwest, minority ethnic groups, minority religious groups, Texans,
New Yorkers, Californians, Iowans, and so on.
Individualism and Privacy
The most important thing to understand about American is probably their
devotion to “individualism.” They have been trained since
very early in their lives to consider themselves as separate individuals
who are responsible for their own situations in life and their own destinies.
They have not been trained to see themselves as members of a close-knit,
tightly interdependent family, religious group, tribe, nation, or other
collectivity.It is this concept of themselves
as individual decision-makers that blinds at least some Americans to the
fact they share a culture with others. They have the idea as mentioned
above, that they have independently made up their own minds about the
values and assumptions they hold. The notion that social factors outside
themselves have made them “just like everyone else” in important
ways offends their sense of dignity.Foreigners who understand the
degree to which Americans are imbued with the notion that the free, self-reliant
individual is the ideal kind of human being will find it easier to understand
many aspects of American behavior and thinking that otherwise might not
make sense.Many Americans do not display
the degree of respect for their parents people in more traditional or
family-oriented societies commonly display. They have the conception it
is a historical or biological accident that put them in the hands of particular
parents. Parents fulfill their responsibilities to the children while
the children are young, and when children reach “the age of independence”
the close child-parent tie is loosened, if not broken.Closely associated with the
value they place on individualism is the importance Americans assign privacy.
Americans assume people “need some time to themselves” or
“some time alone” to think about things or recover their spent
psychological energy. Americans have great difficulty understanding foreigners
who always want to be with another person and who dislike being alone.
Equality
Americans are also distinctive in the degree to which they believe in
the ideal, as stated in their Declaration of Independence, that “all
men are created equal.” Although they sometimes violate the ideal
in their daily lives, particularly in matters of interracial relationships,
Americans have a deep faith that in some fundamental way all people (at
least all American people) are of equal value, and no one is born superior
to anyone else. “One man, one vote,” they say, conveying the
idea any person’s opinion is as valid and worthy of attention as
any other person’s opinion.This is not to say Americans
make no distinctions among themselves as a result of such factors as sex,
age, wealth, or social position. They do. But the distinctions are acknowledged
in subtle ways. Tone of voice, order of speaking, choice of words, seating
arrangements-such are the means by which Americans acknowledge status
differences among themselves.
Informality
Their notions of equality lead Americans to be quite informal in their
general behavior and in their relationships with other people.People from societies where
general behavior is more formal than in American are struck by the informality
of American speech, dress, and posture. Idiomatic speech (commonly called
“slang”) is heavily used on most occasions, with formal speech
reserved for public events and fairly formal situations. People of almost
any station in life can be seen in public wearing jeans, sandals, or other
informal attire. People slouch down in chairs or lean on walls or furniture
when they talk, rather than maintaining an erect bearing.
The Future, Change,
and Progress
Americans are generally less concerned about history and traditions than
are people from older societies. “History doesn’t matter,”
many of them will say. “It’s the future that counts.”
They look ahead.This fundamental American belief
in progress and a better future contrasts sharply with fatalistic (Americans
are likely to us that term with a negative or critical connotation) attitude
that characterizes people from many other cultures, notably Latin, Asian,
and Arab, where there is a pronounced reverence for the past. In those
cultures the future is considered to be in the hands of “fate,”
“God,” or at least the few powerful people or families dominating
society.
Goodness of Humanity
The future cannot be better if people are not fundamentally good and improvable.
Americans assume that human nature is basically good, not basically evil.
Foreign visitors will see them doing many things that are based on the
assumption people are good and can make themselves better.“Where there’s
a will, there’s a way,” the Americans say. People who want
to make things better can do so if only they have strong enough motivation.
Time
For Americans, time is a “resource,” like water or coal, which
can be used well or poorly. “Time is money.” “You only
get so much time in this life, so you’d better use it wisely.”
The future will not be better than the past or the present, as Americans
are trained to see things, unless people use their time for constructive,
future-oriented activities. Thus, Americans admire a “well-organized”
person, one who has a written list of things to do and a schedule for
doing them. The ideal person is punctual (that is, arrives at the scheduled
time for a meeting or event) and is considerate of other people’s
time (that is, does not “waste people’s time” with conversation
or other activity with no visible, beneficial outcome).The American attitude toward
time is not necessarily shared by others, especially non-Europeans. They
are more likely to conceive of time as something that is simply there
around them, not something they can “use.” One of the more
difficult things to which many foreign businessmen and students must adjust
in the States is the notion that time must be saved whenever possible
and used wisely every day.
Achievement, Action,
Work, and Materialism
“He’s a hard worker,” one American might say in praise
of another, or “she gets the job done.” These expressions
convey the typical American’s admiration for a person who approaches
a task conscientiously and persistently, seeing it through to a successful
conclusion. More than that, these expressions convey an admiration for
achievers, people whose live are centered around efforts to accomplish
some physical, measurable thing.Foreign visitors commonly remark
that “Americans work harder than I expected them to.” (Perhaps
these visitors have been excessively influenced by American movies and
television programs, which are less likely to show people working than
to show them driving around in fast cars or pursuing members of the opposite
sex.) While the so-called Protestant work ethic may have lost some of
its hold on Americans, there is still a strong belief that the ideal person
is a “hard worker.” A hard worker is one who “gets right
to work” on a task without delay, works efficiently, and completes
the task in a way that meets reasonably high standards of quality.Generally, Americans like action.
They do indeed believe it is important to devote significant energy to
their jobs or to other daily responsibilities. Beyond that, they tend
to believe they should be doing something most of the time. They are usually
not content, as people from many other countries are, to sit for hours
and talk with other people. They get restless and impatient. They believe
they should be doing something, or at least making plans and arrangements
for doing something later.
Directness and Assertiveness
Americans, as has been said before, generally consider themselves to be
frank, open, and direct in their dealings with other people.Americans will often speak
openly and directly to others about things they dislike. They will try
to do so in a manner they call “constructive,” that is, a
manner which the other person will not find offensive or unacceptable.
If they do not speak openly about what is on their minds, they will often
convey their reactions in nonverbal way (without words, but through facial
expressions, body positions, and gestures). Americans are not taught,
as people in many Asian countries are, that they should mask their emotional
responses. Their words, the tone of their voices, or their facial expressions
will usually reveal when they are feeling angry, unhappy, confused, or
happy and content. They do not think it improper to display these feelings,
at least within limits. Many Asians feel embarrassed around Americans
who are exhibiting a strong emotional response to something. On the other
hand, Latinos and Arabs are generally inclined to display their emotions
more openly than Americans do, and to view Americans as unemotional and
“cold.”But Americans are often less
direct and open than they realize. There are in fact many restrictions
on their willingness to discuss things openly.Despite these limitations,
Americans are generally more direct and open than people from many other
countries. They generally do not try to mask their emotions and are much
less concerned with “face” - avoiding embarrassment to themselves
or others. To them, being “honest” is usually more important
than preserving harmony in interpersonal relationships.Americans use the words “pushy”
or “aggressive” to describe a person who is excessively assertive
in expressing opinions or making requests. The line between acceptable
assertiveness and unacceptable aggressiveness is difficult to draw.
Other Cultural Guidelines:
1. Americans have no taboo of any kind associated with the left hand;
they are as likely to touch you or to hand you objects with the left hand
as with the right hand.
2. Americans have no negative association with the soles of the feet or
the bottom of the shoes; they do not feel it necessary to prevent others
from seeing these parts of the body.
3. A common way to greet children in the U.S. is to pat them on the head.
4. People in the U.S. often point with their index finger and wave it
around in the air as they make especially important points in conversation.
5. One beckons to another person to come closer by holding the hand with
the palm and fingers up, not down.
6. Americans show respect and deference for another person by looking
them in the face, not by looking down.
7. Informal, relaxed postures are commonly assumed by Americans when they
are standing or sitting, even when they are conversing with others. Lack
of formal posture is not a sign of inattention or disrespect.
8. Americans are uncomfortable with silence; they expect to talk rather
constantly when in the presence of others.
9. In the U.S., the doors of rooms are usually left open unless there
is a specific reason to close them.
10. Punctuality - being on time - is important to many Americans; they
are likely to become quite annoyed if forced to wait more than 15 minutes
beyond the scheduled time for meetings or appointments.
From “A Fondness for Icewater: A Brief Introduction to the USA and Its People,” AFS International/Intercultural Programs, 1984.
Tips for Social Gatherings
1. Americans will invite strangers (people they have never met)
into their homes.
2. Visitors to an American home might be allowed or even encouraged to
see any room of the house. It is not unusual for people who visit a home
in the winter to use the bed in the master bedroom as a place to deposit
their coats.
3. Some entertaining might take place in the kitchen. The kitchen is not
the exclusive territory of the female of the house. Men might be seen
helping in the kitchen, cooking and/or cleaning up. Men might even be
seen wearing aprons.
4. Children may get more attention than they would in some other countries.
The children might be included in a social activity, particularly if the
activity entails dinner. Children may take a fairly active role in the
conversation, and may even get more attention than some of the adults.
5. The host might have pets, usually dogs or cats, who live in the house
along with the human inhabitants, and who may be permitted to enter any
part of the house and use any item of furniture as a resting place.
6. The social interaction might entail much mixing of the sexes. While
it sometimes happens that women will form their own conversation groups
and men theirs, there is no rigid sexual segregation at American social
gatherings.
7. While they will make certain accommodations for guests, particularly
for guests at a formal gathering, Americans do not have the idea that
their normal lives should be entirely devoted to guests during the time
the guests are visiting them. Thus, if they have other obligations that
conflict with hosting, they may turn their attentions to other commitments,
such as providing transportation for young children who have obligations
or answering a telephone call and engaging in an extended conversation.
Taken from “1994-1995 Handbook for Foreign Students and Scholars” International Education and Services, University of Iowa.
